Time for an Affair

On a recent Redbook magazine cover I read, "How to have an affair with your husband".  I must say I was intrigued! After all, what about an affair makes it something so many people do? According to Diane Neumann the newness of the 'relationship' is a huge one. It creates excitement, I assume, we all felt when we first started falling for our spouse. You get butterflies when you know you're going to be with him, you smile that goofy grin when she crosses your mind. I get it, we've all been there - on the falling in love part I mean.

Well, recently it occurred to me that I miss my husband. But he's not in the military on assignment, he doesn't travel extensively for work, and he's alive and well - praise God. No, Babe works full-time nearby and is home most of the time for dinner and helps me with the kids and their after school "stuff". He's a great dad and just the kind of husband I need. So why do I miss him?

That's easy. Since school started at the end of August we have been running ourselves ragged to get the kids to their respective extracurricular activities.  We also hit the Back to School nights mixed in with track meets, twice a week, and football practices, three times a week and a game on Saturday.  Babe and I are SPENT! We used to spend time together after the kids go to bed, and although we are still together come 8 p.m., one of us is typically too tired to do much more than pass out in bed.

So it's time for US to have an affair. In honor of said affair, I suggested to Babe we celebrate surviving August to November (track and football season) by taking two nights away from home, kid free, just for US. Maybe stay downtown, eat out, laugh and talk, just enjoy being married - and happily so. He agreed, and I can't wait!

Marriage requires daily care, but when you throw kids into the mix - and active kids to boot - it is easy to neglect the one you love most. I know we're both tired, but we have one month left of football games and practices, so hopefully we can use our time wisely til we get to sneak away and have our very own love affair.